Tips on Preparing for Marriage
There are several things you can do right now in preparation for your future life in marriage. With or without a serious relationship, it matters not. The earlier you start working on yourself, the better.
Here are five steps to get you started:
Look into your habits.
Do you have any habits which you suspect might bring conflict to your relationship with your future spouse? Maybe you like to leave your dirty laundry everywhere, or maybe you have problems managing your finances. If you’re unsure which habits need to be addressed, ask for honest feedback from those who are close to you. Allow them to be candid though, not fearing that you will be offended. Polish your conflict resolution style. While you’re single, you should take time to identify your style of resolving conflicts, and what you can do to fine-tune it. Think of the last two or three conflicts you’ve encountered. How did you fix the problem? Were there things you think you should have done differently?
Be more forgiving of yourself.
Everybody has imperfections, including you, so learn to take yourself less seriously. Start with those small mistakes, like misplacing your car keys or mispronouncing certain words. Instead of berating yourself, half a good laugh about it and move on. Accepting yourself for everything you are is liberating.
Seek ways to serve.
The strongest marriages are those made up of individuals who are ready to sacrifice for each other. In your single years, you can cultivate a sense of servanthood. Search for ways to serve your church or local community. This could mean volunteering to babysit for single mom, driving an elderly neighbor to a friend’s house, or participating in your church’s outreach programs. If you make servanthood a constant part of your live today, it will come more naturally for you in marriage.
Take stock of your friends.
Finally, It’s important that you have friends who will support you and encourage you to become a good spouse one day. To know if you have such kind of friends, do a quick and easy friendship inventory. You can start by answering a few questions. One, do they think that marriage should be valued? Two, are they respect their opposite gender? Three, are they honest enough to tell you my flaws? They may not see themselves from this perspective. If you tell them that you need their encouragement in certain areas, they may be glad to give it to you. Bear in mind that it’s alright to select your friends. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to surround yourself with people who will help you become a better person.